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October 2024: 1 Peter 1, An apostle of Jesus Christ,

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To God’s elect, exiles scattered throughout the provinces of Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia and Bithynia, 2 who have been chosen according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to be obedient to Jesus Christ and sprinkled with his blood:

Grace and peace be yours in abundance.

Praise to God for a Living Hope

3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This inheritance is kept in heaven for you, 5 who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have suffered grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. We should always praise our Lord. Even if we are walking through dark circumstances we know that we have an inheritance that this world can not take away from us no matter how hard others may try. Thankfully our inheritance is stored in heaven for us where no moth, rust or fire can destroy it. Peter reminds us that in this world we will have all kinds of trials. For some of us, our trials are focused on our marriage. Being married is not always easy. We are two totally different people, raised in different ways, with different hopes and goals for our future. That alone is just the tip of the iceberg on the mountain of problems that we can face in our marriage. Sometimes when I take a look at other marriages and the struggles they go through, it makes me rethink the significance of my own problems in our marriage. When I look at how some marriages struggle with addiction to porn, actions from their past that come back to haunt them, or how they have suffered devastating heartbreak. But Peter says no matter what we suffer, big or small, it is to refine our faith, and by that, we show Jesus honor and glory. Jesus doesn’t cause bad things to happen in our lives just so that He can get the glory. Bad things happen in our lives because we live in a sinful and fallen world. We unlike Jesus do not live sinless lives. We are bound to sin no matter how much we try not to. Why? Because we are all sons and daughters of Adam and Eve, the sin curse was placed on them and every generation to follow. Even creation itself bears the curse of sin. We have weeds and pests that destroy crops, animals by the hundreds that can kill us easily and plenty of food that can and does make us sick. Sin is all around us and there is no way for us to escape it until we are in heaven. Peter says that these trials happen to us so that our faith is tested. We need to prove to God and ourselves how genuine our love for the Lord really is. If you encounter one bump in the road and then you ditch Jesus for something better, obviously your faith was only on the inside. There was no changed heart. You were only honoring him with your lips for the approval of man. I’m sure we all know people like that. They look like the perfect Christian on the outside but as soon as trials hit them, they bail. Maybe they just liked having Christian friends or they liked the people at church rather than at work, but no matter what the reason, their true intentions will show at some point in time. Then you have the others who it seems like no matter what life throws at them, no matter how bad the hurt, they keep praising Jesus. Sometimes Jesus is all we have at the end of the day. We may lose our friends, family, jobs, and house and all that’s left is you and Jesus. But He is all that you need, and He is the only one who can rebuild your life. Sometimes when it is just you and Jesus left standing, you realize how much you need Him, love Him, and completely trust and worship Him. You also see how much He loves you – in case you forgot about the cross – but you get to see His love in a very real way in your own life. Some people need big tragedies and trials to see it while others don’t. Either way, that overwhelming sense of love that you have for Jesus is expressed with praise and honor. I mean how else do you show the God of this world how much you love Him? Don’t let trials get you down, this may be the time when you feel closest and most loved by God.

8 Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls. 10 Concerning this salvation, the prophets, who spoke of the grace that was to come to you, searched intently and with the greatest care, 11 trying to find out the time and circumstances to which the Spirit of Christ in them was pointing when he predicted the sufferings of the Messiah and the glories that would follow. 12 It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves but you, when they spoke of the things that have now been told you by those who have preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. Even angels long to look into these things.

If you are like me, you read the New Testament and think about how lucky the apostles were to be side by side with Jesus for three years. They ate with him, drank with him, and witnessed miracles firsthand. I know how I feel just reading about the miracles, I couldn’t imagine how I would feel if I saw one right before my very eyes. Even though we can look back at that point in time and think how lucky they were to be there with Jesus, many of the prophets and Old Testament people thought that we, the people on the other side of the cross, were the lucky ones. If you think about it, we have a perfect 20/20 hindsight vision of everything from the dawn of time and seeing scripture unfold through history, fulfilling proficay after proficy. Peter tells us that even the angels get excited about our salvation, and if angels love to look at the work of God in saving sinners like us, how much more should we who are the very beneficiaries of that salvation (not just onlookers) love to look into it and be thankful for it. When was the last time you thought about your salvation? The price it cost, the love it took, you know…all of it. It’s something as Christians that we think about when we get saved but not a whole lot after that. Sometimes we don’t want to think about it. There is so much emotion wrapped up in the cross and our salvation that it makes me ugly cry every time. As believers, I think it is good for us to take a step back and consider our salvation, to just really evaluate our lives, and how we are living out God’s calling on our lives. Most people around the age of 40-50 go through some sort of mid-life crisis. They realize that their time here on this earth is running out and most of the time they think about all the things they haven’t gotten to do or experience. Sometimes this involves sports cars or career changes. But when if we did a salvation mid-life crisis. What if we sat down and asked the hard questions? How am I doing at my job for God? Am I preaching the gospel, am I telling people about Jesus, does my behavior model that of our savior? It’s so easy for us to get comfortable with how things are going that we don’t stretch ourselves and flex our spiritual muscles. This can be a really good exercise for couples to do together. Discuss what you are doing well and what needs to be improved upon in your spiritual life with your spouse. Don’t be too hard on yourselves, not everyone is able to or needs to sell everything and move to a foreign land and become missionaries. You can be an amazing missionary to your family, friends, and co-workers right where you are but growth nonetheless is needed.

13 Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. 14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy because I am holy.”

As a child, I couldn’t wait to grow up and be an adult. I couldn’t wait until I could make my own rules, and do what I wanted when I wanted. Then you grow up to be an adult and you realize that you can do whatever you want but there are consequences for everything. Then when you get saved you become a child again, a child of God this time. God expects us to be obedient to Him, our heavenly father. We are told not to conform to our evil desires. From birth, we have certain ways that we act. At first, they are for self-preservation but then later they develop into more complex emotions and behaviors. As a baby, which is at the mercy of the world around it (and its own needs), we really have no ego to speak of until we begin to differentiate ourselves from our caregivers and the demands of the outer environment. Then as we grow to become toddlers, we become impulsive, driven by our emotions, including sexual and aggressive drives, and interpret caregiver responses in black-and-white terms as either being ”nice to me” or ”mean to me.” The world is ”good” if it meets my needs and ”bad” if it doesn’t. As small children, we are only able to focus on present events rather than being caught up in the past or future. As children, we are very selfish. It isn’t until we grow and mature that we start to consider others, start to consider how our current actions will affect our future, and so forth. The same should be true as we grow and mature as Christians. We are called to be sober-minded and act in holy ways because now our heavenly father is Holy, unlike our earthly fathers. He wants us to stand out so that when others see us, they can immediately recognize who our father is. This also includes acting holy even when things are difficult with your spouse. Your spouse is also a child of God and even the times when he is not acting holy, you still need to do so.

17 Since you call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear. 18 For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, 19 but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. 20 He was chosen before the creation of the world but was revealed in these last times for your sake. 21 Through him you believe in God, who raised him from the dead and glorified him, and so your faith and hope are in God. 22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. 24 For,

“All people are like grass,

and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;

the grass withers and the flowers fall,

25 but the word of the Lord endures forever.”

And this is the word that was preached to you.

Have you ever thought about how truly short our time on this earth is. Sometimes that thought is just so deep it’s hard to grasp or understand. The thought of dying someday can feel overwhelming and very scary, but as born-again Christians, we know that our physical lives will end but then we go on to spend eternity with Jesus in heaven. We have been reborn again with an imperishable seed so when our body withers away and eventually dies, our soul lives on forever. But what about the time that we have here on this Earth? Peter tells us we have been purified and that we are to obey God so we can have sincere love for one another. But what does it mean to have sincere love for others? Sincere love is not something we are used to here in our sin-cursed world. Most of the time we love people when they make us feel good, but what about those who are difficult to be around and therefore difficult to love? In this world, people will not keep you happy 100% of the time. This is why you need to learn to love them even when they seem to be unlovable.

When we hear of people getting divorced and we ask them what the issues were, inevitably you will hear one of the reasons be, “I’m just not happy anymore”. I do not dismiss that some people have incredibly difficult marriages and circumstances that they live through, but we are called to stay married until death do us part, not until our happiness fades. Your spouse is the one person on planet Earth who should love you unconditionally. Unfortunately, we don’t know what unconditional love looks like. Only God truly understands that kind of love. As we walk and grow in our relationship with Jesus, we should grow in our marriages and understand that love is just more than having lustful feelings or being happy 24/7. Love means sticking by your spouse no matter what he may be walking through. Life gets tough and hard but if you throw in the towel every time that happens, you are cheating yourself and others from valuable learning experiences. I don’t know about you but I learn the most and grow closer to God when I am going through trials. Sincere love is all about sticking by your spouse, comforting him, and praying for him and with him. Unbelievers walk away from their marriages. If you claim to be a Christian then you need to stick by your spouse instead of walking away. Walking away is easy but if God wanted us to have easy lives, He would fix all the problems in our lives the instant we were born again. We know that He does not spare us from the trials of this life. He is testing our faith and seeing if our actions line up with our behavior. What does your behavior say about you??

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A New Beginning

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Welcome back, friends. I wanted to share with you how things are going to be changing around here at 2 Lives 1 Flesh. I was starting to feel like the topics I was talking about surrounding marriage were getting a little repetitive and none of us have time for that. What I also found missing out on my own personal bible study time, was a focused and thorough exploration of different books of the bible. So I decided to do a monthly bible study where we will go through different books of the Bible and talk about what it looks like to grow in Christ and to grow in our marriages. I will try to always point things back to how a topic can affect your marriage. These will be longer studies than my weekly blogs, and they will be posted on the first Wednesday of every month, but I am hoping you guys will like them and get some good Bible knowledge in the process. Please let me know how you like things and if you have certain books you would like me to cover. I will be starting off with 1 Peter. I can’t wait to hear what everyone thinks next week.

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Don’t Let The Sun Go Down On Your Anger

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God made every single one of us different and unique. With that, we differ in the way that we handle our emotions, especially our anger. When two people with different personalities, preferences, and quirks live together, they’re bound to become irritated or angry sometimes. However, anger can be different in each marriage based on how it’s expressed and managed. People often learn to disguise their anger and deal with it through masking behaviors such as gritting their teeth. The other extreme is allowing anger to escalate to flat-out rage. And as we learn in the Bible, anger is not in itself bad, Jesus had righteous anger. Most famously, Jesus became angry in the temple when religious profiteers were exploiting people. In response to the regular injustice being practiced, Jesus made a whip and overturned tables. But as we have all come to notice, we are certainly not Jesus and so we need to manage our emotions appropriately. God gave us a heart and a brain — emotions and logic. Both are necessary and affect our decision-making and worldview. Anger itself isn’t the problem. Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. We have to find Biblical ways of handling our anger without holding our anger inside and becoming passive-aggressive behaviors or just openly and uncontrollably venting our emotions

Anger and other negative emotions can have an impact on our marriage, that is why we must figure out how to control those emotions with the instructions from the Bible. God tells us, Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4: 29-32. We are told to get rid of bitterness and anger and instead be compassionate and forgiving. If we stay focused on all the things that we have been forgiven of, it makes forgiving our spouse a lot easier. The only one who was perfect was Jesus, the rest of us all fall short on an hourly basis, so forgive your spouse and help them to forgive you. A world without forgiveness is not a world many of us want to be a part of.

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Kindness On Her Tongue

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Communication in a Godly way is the foundation of having a healthy marriage. It is also the best way to solve conflicts when they arise in your marriage and since no marriage is void of conflict, we need to learn how to handle it head-on. When there is conflict, we are not called to run and hide, nor are we called to attack the other person with accusations. So how do we find that beautiful middle ground where we can talk about things openly, honestly, and respectfully? How can we handle arguments and conflict in a way that honors God, especially when emotions can run very high? She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26. The first thing we need to focus on is getting rid of any biblical thoughts as soon as they enter our brain. Such thoughts can be, What’s the point, he will never change, There is no way to fix this, or I will have things my way whether he likes it or not. Most of the time we don’t even realize these thoughts creep into our minds because we hear them so much from society. We see it on TV shows, in communication with friends and co-workers, and everywhere we turn our heads. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and [e]acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2. Instead of running away from conflict or trying to avoid it, we should change the way that we think about the situation.

It is important to acknowledge how powerful negative thoughts can be and how they can negatively impact our emotions. Having the right thoughts on the other hand can make conflict resolution much more manageable. With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love Ephesians 4:2. Humility is important when solving conflict because when you put your husband’s needs above your own, it makes you focus on his needs and his point of view. If you humble yourself and do not seek your own way in whatever battle you and your husband are facing, God will be glorified. In the meantime pray for God to remove this battle from your marriage. We should also approach these situations with gentleness which means having strength under control. We are to have our emotions under control at all times. Sometimes as women, we try to make things bigger and have a bigger reaction to them to be noticed by our husbands. In general, they are taller and stronger than us, which causes us to act bigger and taller than them in other ways. Instead, we should, increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all perseverance and patience; joyously giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. Colossians 1:11-12.

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Out Of The Heart, The Mouth Speaks

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But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and those things defile the person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, acts of adultery, other immoral sexual acts, thefts, false testimonies, and slanderous statements. Matthew 15:18-19. The heart is where we first commit sin. It is where ideas brew and grow, eventually causing us to take action towards that sin. The more we dwell on sinful thoughts and feelings, the more likely we are to act upon them. Even our modern-day psychiatry understands that thinking negative things can have dangerous consequences. Negativity is often a product of depression or insecurity. It can stem from illness, life events, personality problems, and substance abuse. Like many things in life, negativity too, can become a habit. Frequent criticism, cynical thoughts, and denial can encourage sadness. These negative tendencies can cause our brain to distort the truth and make it even more difficult to break the negative cycle. Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions, those emotions build up in our hearts tempting us to want to act out in sin. The mind is a powerful thing and what you feed can affect it in a powerful way. Breaking the cycle of sinful and intrusive thoughts is very difficult but it can be done. Remember, God knows all the challenges we face in this world, that’s why he gives us the Bible full of good advice on how to conquer any problem that comes our way.

The Bible tells us, that the best way to get rid of sinful and intrusive thoughts, is to fill our minds and our hearts with God’s word. We are reminded in the Bible just how sinful we truly are and how easy it is for us to fall into sinful ways, but God gives us plenty of ways to help combat sin. In 1 Corinthians 13:4 God tells us that, Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. When you love your spouse, these character traits should reign supreme. While they can get under our skin and cause us frustration, we are called in turn to respond in love. Paul also reminds us, Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and pleading with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7. What I love more than anything in this verse is that if we pray, are thankful, and let God know what is on our hearts, He will guard our hearts and our minds. Sometimes the only way that you get around negative thoughts, is to have the power of God on your side. I don’t know about you, but I need all the help from God I can get. I have no power on my own to fight all the sinful things of this world. That is why Jesus came and died for us on the cross because we can do nothing without Him.

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If Your Brother Sins, Rebuke Him

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In keeping with the theme from last week about responding biblically to your spouse, this week we will talk about how to handle a situation when your spouse is acting in a way that is outside God’s law. As Christians, we are obligated not to turn a blind eye to sin no matter who that is. Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. Luke 17:3. Doing this is not to boast or to find delight in someone else flaws, but to help them restore their relationship with God. Please don’t also rebuke your spouse for every sin he commits. I’m sure you wouldn’t want him doing the same to you. When we rebuke someone it’s because their sin is causing a wedge in their relationship with God. And subject yourselves to one another in the fear of Christ. Ephesians 5:21. Not only is it ok for a wife to rebuke her husband, but it is expected. She is God’s gift to her husband to help him draw closer to the Lord and encourages his faithful living. If he is drifting away from the Lord and falling into sin, the chances of him leading his family astray are pretty high as well. This rebuking should be done with humility and in love. Anything other than that is sinful on the wife’s part. A wife should first examine her own heart when approaching her husband with his sin. The purpose of her reproach should be to restore her husband to God, not to expose him or pour guilt upon him.

There may be other times when your husband acts foolishly or has foolish and unreasonable demands for you. The Bible is very clear about how to respond to these types of situations. Do not answer a fool according to his foolishness, Or you will also be like him. Proverbs 26:4. This means we do retaliate with anger, harsh words, clamming up, or returning evil for evil. As a wife, you must learn how to respond to your husband’s foolishness in a God-honoring way. Many times throughout Jesus’ ministry, we see him asking people why they are responding to Him in a certain way. In the book of John, we see Jesus respond to the high priest in this manner. Jesus answered him, “I have spoken openly to the world; I always taught in synagogues and in the temple area, where all the Jews congregate; and I said nothing in secret. Why are you asking Me? Ask those who have heard what I spoke to them. Look: these people know what I said.”John 18:20-21. However when we take Jesus’ approach, we must remember that we are not sinless like Jesus but instead sinful, so be prepared to get some kickback from your spouse. No matter what we need to say to our spouses we must remember that the word of God is our most valuable tool. With this tool, we should be gentle and have a quiet manner, while also maintaining a submissive attitude. Confronting your spouse is hard but is necessary. Do it in prayer and careful consideration and always in love.

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Responding Biblically

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Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21. As mere humans we can bring death to someone with our words. Has someone ever said something to you that just cut you to the bone? I know I have. That old saying “sticks and stone will break my bones, but words will never hurt me” could not be more false. Words can destroy someone, but on the flip side, our words can build up, encourage, and bring forth new life. This could not be more true when dealing with your spouse. We all know our spouses will sin against us many times throughout our marriage and we will do the same. The taming of the tongue is one of a wife’s first steps into being submissive to her husband. Failure to communicate biblically is a sin because you are not being obedient to God. If we think about what we are going to say to our husbands and how our tone will be, before we say anything, then we have a greater chance of having a God-honoring speech come from our lips. Plus if we respond with kinder words and a less judgmental tone in our voices, the chances of your husband responding better greatly improve. Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but if there is any good word for edification according to the need of the moment, say that, so that it will give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21. We have a choice as a wife and as a Christian of how we respond when people sin against us, and they will. This sin will happen when we least expect it, from the people we won’t expect, and there will be those times when it will be very expected. When this does happen, whether expected or not, we must respond with the right words and the right actions. We are told by Peter, All of you be harmonious, sympathetic, loving, compassionate, and humble; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you would inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8-9. It’s hard not to want to get back at your husband when he hurts you, but rather than dwelling on what he did and how you can settle the score, pray for him and let God guide your thoughts on ways that you can bless your husband. After all, that’s what Jesus did for us. There are so many ways that God could even the score with each and every one of us. Instead, He sent His son to die for our sins. He returned the hurt that we did to Him into a loving response that ultimately heals our relationship with Him so that when we pass from this life to the next, we will not be eternally separated from Him. And thank God for that. Don’t try to separate yourself from your spouse, find ways to build that relationship back together.

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Overcoming

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All of us at some point in time have been wronged by our spouse. Maybe his sins have been minor but there are a lot of them or maybe he has just committed one big terrible sin. Either way, it doesn’t matter, Paul tells us in Romans 12:21, Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. It is the responsibility of the Godly wife to respond in a manner that reflects the right attitude and the right action. She is to continue this model of behavior until the battle with her spouse is over. Some conflicts may only take an hour or two to resolve while others could take years. Some of us may never see a resolution this side of heaven, but we are still obligated to respond in the right way. It is easy when we are wronged to plot how to get him back or dwell on all the ways that he has let you down, but we were not called for easy, we are called for obedience. Holding a grudge or keeping track of all his wrong doings, will not help your relationship with your spouse. In fact, it will only drive a wedge further and further between you. God not only wants your marriage relationship to be close with one another but He also wants you to have a close relationship with Him. When a wedge grows between you and your spouse, it will inevitably grow bigger between you and God.

God doesn’t ask us to work miracles with our spouse, He just asks for our obedience to Him. Obedience to God is intentionally praying for your spouse, for his healing, and for his discernment. It also involves speaking to him with kind and loving words. Treat people the same way you want them to treat you. Luke 6: 31. When was the last time you found ways to bless your husband? Believe me, it can be hard to do when you are bitter and hurting, but blessing your husband with kindness is one of the best ways to show God’s love to Him. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8. We were the worst kind of sinner to God and Jesus still died on the cross for us. I’m sure no matter what your husband has done to you, it is not worse than the ways we have sinned against God. When we pray for our spouse and ask for God’s blessing upon him, that also helps to soften our hearts towards him. So the next time your husband sins against you, remember there are two hearts that need healed, his for hurting you, and you for learning to forgive.

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Intimacy

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The sexual bond between husband and wife is a gift from God for the enjoyment of physical intimacy and the procreation of life. God tells Adam and Eve in Genesis 1:28 to be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth, and subdue it. God also created intimacy to enhance their closeness and oneness within marriage. For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. The physical union of husband and wife was designed by God to help satisfy man’s desire for closeness and companionship. Think about it, is there any way that you can feel closer to another person than being intimate with them? God designed us to need physical and emotional closeness with our spouses. Companionship through sexual intimacy was put into place to help protect the husband and wife from the temptation of finding physical and emotional needs met outside of the marriage bond. Men and women both have sexual desires, it is fairly common for men to have a higher sex drive over women, which is why the bible tells wives, Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5. Deprivation from either spouse can lead to a longing and need for fulfillment outside of the marriage bed. King David was strong against his enemies, a mighty warrior, but fell prey to Bathsheba. Let that sink in for a little bit.

To prevent our lustful desires from taking over and destroying our lives, God commands husbands and wives to respond to each other’s physical needs. Again, men and women have very different amounts of how often their physical needs need to be met, so compromise with your spouse. If he wants it 7 times and week and you want it once, see if you can find a happy balance of 2-3 times per week. Marriage is also about making sacrifices and putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Because taking care of your husband’s physical needs is a command from God, when a wife responds to this need, she is not only showing love to her husband but also to God. Sexual intimacy should also be a regular and continuous part of a marriage. And rejoice in the wife of your youth. Like a loving doe and a graceful mountain goat, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Proverbs 5:19. Plan times to be physically intimate with your husband, and be a warm and responsive wife to his needs. Don’t just glorify God on Sunday mornings at church, glorify Him as well through intimacy in your marriage bed.

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Selfishness

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All people are naturally selfish. We all come into this world selfish. We start as newborns only concerned about our next meal and love from our mothers. As we grow into toddlers we have a hard time sharing anything, as teens we are self-absorbed. Coming into adulthood, unfortunately, we don’t learn how to shed those selfish ambitions. Our culture doesn’t help much with this either. When we hear, have some me time, and follow your heart. Never do we hear people ask about how we have had to compromise or make considerations for others. That’s just not the world that we live in, here in the USA. But this is not the way we are called to live. Jesus tells us to truly love someone, we need to put their needs ahead of our own and be self-sacrificing. Paul tells us, Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility consider one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Phil 2: 3-4. If we love our husbands the way that we ought to, we should be willing to put our husbands first before ourselves. This does not mean that you don’t have a voice or an opinion, but rather when that line in the sand gets drawn, you need to cling to your husband and put his needs above your own.

Often women view loving someone as having romantic feelings about them and feeling those sparks every time you touch them. That is one kind of love but not the love that Jesus wants us to have for our spouses. That type of love is superficial and fleeting. Jesus died for us because He loved us so much. That is the kind of love we are expected to have with our spouses. Greater love has no one than this, that a person will lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13. I’m sure most of us love our kids in that way but who else can we add to that list? Would that list even include your spouse? If your husband is a believer, he is called to love you in the same way. This is why we are told to marry someone whom we are equally yoked with “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?” 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. Paul is explaining that when one is “yoked” to a partner, this means that two people should equally share the burdens of life and the purpose of their calling in Christ to glorify God. Their work will be light even though there will still be toil because they will be striving to go in the same direction, joyfully burdened for Christ. Their burden will be light because their equal yoke will bring peace and rest. If you are a selfish person, being yoked together with your spouse will leave you feeling like a caged animal. Learning to comprise and find a middle ground will help you go through this life with a lot less weight around your neck.

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