A Study of 1 Peter 4

1 Peter 4

Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. 2 As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God. 3 For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do—living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing, and detestable idolatry. 4 They are surprised that you do not join them in their reckless, wild living, and they heap abuse on you. 5 But they will have to give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead. 6 For this is the reason the gospel was preached even to those who are now dead, so that they might be judged according to human standards in regard to the body, but live according to God in regard to the spirit.

How do Christians handle sin? Because let’s face it, just because we are Christians and saved, does not mean that we won’t sin any longer. If we don’t acknowledge our sins, how can we grow and move on from the sinful deeds that we do? Unfortunately, sin is no longer an acceptable word, we would rather call these the way of the world now, sickness, addiction or just being a victim of the world around us. We continually find a way not to call a sinner, a sinner. It’s never their fault, people are inherently good. If all these outside factors were better, people would not be as sinful. I am only sinful because of the way I was raised, it is all my parent’s fault and none of the blame falls on me because I am just a sweet child of God. Sound familiar? But this kind of thinking doesn’t just happen outside of the church but it also bleeds into the church. Now society and the church are desensitized to sin. When we don’t see the darkness of sin, we can have a warped view of ourselves and be more righteous and holy than we are. Most people in today’s generation think more highly of themselves and therefore we live however we choose. 

To become holy and righteous we must realize how weak and sick we are without Christ. Without Christ, we are incredibly fragile and it wouldn’t take much for us to completely fall to pieces. Therefore we can’t look at sin the way the world does. To no longer live for evil desires but rather for God, you have to keep looking back at Christ and your past. Christ was constantly tempted with sin while He was here on earth, there were many times when people plotted to kill him, from the time He was a baby until His time on the cross. So when we are persecuted and grow weary in fighting for good, we can think of Christ. Even if they take your life, you have still won. You then will be pure and holy like our Lord Jesus Christ. Death for the believer means no more sin, your suffering is done and complete.

We know how sin affects us, but how does it affect God? Every time you sin you have pushed God aside, you have defied, disobeyed, and rejected God’s will. It is the ultimate act of blaspheming. You ultimately tell God I will do things my way thank you very much, I’m smarter than you and I know what’s best for me. So how can you say that you love God but then not obey Him and think that you know better? Sin brought Christ only sadness, tears, and ultimately death. You must also remember what sin has done to you and all humanity from the time of creation. Has anything good come from your sin? When we come to Christ it’s because we are tired of our sin, tired of the weight and burden, so why do we try to dabble in sin when it hurts us so bad? Don’t be tempted by the non-believers to sin, they have no idea of the blessings of God and the joy and peace that you have now that you are a Christian. It may look like fun on the outside but remember they will have to stand in front of God and give an account for all their wrongdoings. If you can’t remember how negatively sin is affected. Your life, think about how it killed Christ on the cross. How easily we forget that Jesus took our punishment. It was supposed to be us up there on that cross. That’s how bad our sin is and how it needs to be dealt with. We now have the gospel and know the word of God. We have no reason for rejecting God and continuing to sin. Put aside your old ways and cling to the Lord. Get rid of your sin, all it ever did for you was hurt you and try to destroy your life.

7 The end of all things is near. Therefore be alert and of sober mind so that you may pray. 8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 9 Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 

Now, notice the word there, a very simple one but needs our understanding, “is near.”   I believe that this passage is telling believers that the coming of Christ is imminent; the next event can happen at any time.  It is near.  Peter is reminding them then that they are to live in anticipation of the nearness of the return of Jesus Christ.  We could say that they are to live with, here’s the word, expectancy.  Do you realize that every generation since then has therefore lived in that same expectancy?  All of us live today or should live, in the expectancy of the coming of Jesus Christ.  Not being expectant is not being a faithful church. When you are waiting for Christ, it reminds us that our citizenship is not here but in Heaven. God hasn’t told us when Jesus is coming so that we remain in the waiting, in joyful expectancy, as if Jesus were to come at any moment. We are called to a high level of accountability while we are waiting on Jesus. Peter reminds us that Jesus’ second coming is near, imminent, and the next event on God’s calendar.

We need to love each other deeply and offer hospitality all the time so when trials and tribulations come, we have practiced this behavior and it is not foreign to us. The secret of being ready for a crisis is living the Christian life all the time. So then our faith and spiritual courage will be like muscle memory for us. Paul reminds us that he wants to do good but doesn’t. We all fall short because we are sinful and flawed humans. Peter gives us directions and instructions on how to practice walking in the way of Christ. Personal holiness, love, and service are the three main topics that Peter puts all the details into.

Holiness is to fix your mind on things above not of emotion or passion. Alcohol and drugs cloud our minds and our judgment so we lose focus on God. A confused mind, a self-centered mind, a mind knocked out of balance by worldly lusts and pursuits, a mind victimized by emotion or passion out of control, a mind that is ignorant of God’s truth, a mind that is indifferent to God’s purposes is a mind that cannot know the fullness of holy communion in prayer with God. Peter tells us that we also need to be focused on our relationship with other believers. After you have strengthened your relationship with the Lord, then your first concern should be to show love to those around you. Love covers a multitude of sins and since we are all sinners we all need to extend love to one another. Love forgives over and over again. If we fulfill our responsibility to love, we have fulfilled the entire law, because the law is focused around love. Love will hide sin instead of exposing it. Peter also tells us to love strangers when he says to be hospitable without grumbling. We need to meet the needs of others whether they are friends or strangers.

10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. 11 If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power forever and ever. Amen.

Faith can not be removed or detached from the realm of real life. Salvation is not only forgiveness of sins but also a new way of living. Salvation also turns your world and how you live completely upside down, it is the transformation and rejuvenation of your life. Because of this salvation, we should desire to be obedient to God. We should strive for holiness, we should love fervently and we should be willing to live a life of service. You can’t have outward service without inward holiness and love, then that makes you empty and hypocritical. So how do we serve one another? God has given each Christian a special gift and each of our gifts are unique to us. Even if you have the same gift as someone else, your gift is measured out differently for each person and it may be sprinkled with other talents in their gifts to make everyone 100% unique from one another. Then when you add your outside environment, your training, and physical capabilities, there is nobody like you and nobody can replace you and do what you do. But this is our gift from God, we did not earn it, just like our salvation. The Holy Spirit gives the gifts, the Father gives the ministry and God works the effects, that is the entire trinity working in your life. What God-given capacity has God given to you supernaturally to minister to others?  What have you been divinely enabled to do to further the kingdom of God and how are you using it? If you are not serving in some fashion then you are not using your divine spiritual gifts which are in direct disobedience of scripture. You must use your gifts, you were saved so you could serve.

Suffering for Being a Christian

12 Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. 13 But rejoice in as much as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. 

Nero had such a dislike for Christians in 64 AD, that professing to be a Christian made you guilty of almost anything and almost guaranteed to be hated by society. Later Domitian, Trajan, and the other Roman emperors, you find that what began here as an initial hatred of Christians became a fixed policy.  The question of whether a man was a Christian became the most essential part of any charge against him.  As a result of this accusation, persecution began.  Tacitus, the Roman historian, reported that Nero rolled Christians in pitch or oil and then set fire to them while they were still alive, and used them as living torches to light his garden parties.  He served them up in the skins of wild animals to his hunting dogs to tear them to shreds. If you were to profess to be a Christian you would experience nothing good here on this Earth you would be under terrible persecution. But as Peter reminds us, we should not be surprised by any of this. He tells us to respond in four ways. First, expect it, rejoice in it, evaluate its cause, and entrust yourself to God. Peter says don’t be surprised when you and your faith are put on trial and we have examples of such throughout the Bible. How we react to suffering is part of our testimony to others. Our suffering is not foreign or alien to us, it’s the only promise we are given about being a Christian while on this earth.

Don’t be surprised when God puts you in the furnace to purify your faith. He is trying to melt away all the impurities in your faith. God purges our lives from pride and helps us to realize how much we need God. We should also rejoice in our sufferings because in our sufferings we share with Christ, we will also share in His glory. Jesus suffered at the hands of men because He did what was right and spoke the truth. Suffering for doing and saying what is right should be encouraged and celebrated. Jesus suffered for doing this, why should we be any different? But keep rejoicing so at His second coming we will rejoice with exaltation. Our rejoicing at that time will be all the more intense and powerful because we suffered just like Christ. Your eternal reward will directly reflect your suffering. Your suffering will reflect to some degree your faithfulness. But if we suffer for Christ, are insulted, treated unjustly, etc then rejoice because that is considered a blessing. What does it mean to suffer for proclaiming the name of Christ? The name alone of Jesus itself caused quite an uprising. All you had to do was speak his name and you could be thrown in jail or executed. But if you proclaimed the name of Christ you were blessed, and you are blessed because the spirit of glory rests upon you, the spirit of God comes upon you. What a wonderful thing to look forward to. If we think back to Steven, he had the spirit of glory come upon him as he was being stoned to death. He cared nothing for what was going on around him. His face was fixed on Jesus’ face and the troubles of this world did not hold a candle to what he was looking at. Let us keep our faces fixed on Jesus and let the cares and the worries of this world melt away into the background.

14 If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you. 15 If you suffer, it should not be as a murderer or thief or any other kind of criminal, or even as a meddler. 16 However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name. 17 For it is time for judgment to begin with God’s household; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who do not obey the gospel of God? 18 And,

“If it is hard for the righteous to be saved,

what will become of the ungodly and the sinner?”

19 So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.

Living in the United States we don’t often feel the persecution that others in non-Christian countries face. But even for Christians in America, we are slowly being persecuted by the Atheist and Humanist communities. Should that persecution intensify, we should be ready to dig in our heels and defend our faith. We are not to be ashamed of our faith. Remember though you need to suffer for doing what is right, you can be sinning like the rest of the unbelieving world. You need to be different, standing up for righteousness and God’s truth. When you suffer, you should expect it, rejoice in it, and evaluate it.  If you suffer for being a Christian then you are more like Christ. You should look at suffering as the end of all things is near. It means that the judgment is coming, and the suffering of Christians is all a part of what the end times will look like. If God is already judging his church and purifying them with fire, then what will His judgment and purification look like for those who don’t believe? God’s judgment doesn’t start and end with the church, rather it starts with the church and continues to the unbelievers. Peter reminds us it is better to suffer here while we are on Earth, rather than in Hell where there is eternal damnation. Our suffering now pales in comparison to the suffering that others will experience when they eternally suffer in Hell. So then when we suffer, look at it for what it is, and remember how much more severe the suffering of those unbelievers will be. Jesus loves you and whatever suffering you go through here, remember this is for your strengthening. So rejoice when you suffer, you are getting stronger and more pure.

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December 2024: A Study of 1 Peter 3

1 Peter 3

Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

How do you win an unsaved spouse to the Lord? Whether it’s our spouse who is unsaved or other family members or friends, we need to know how to show the love of Christ to everyone. When Peter was writing this letter, he was writing it to persecuted Christians. He wanted them to have hope and to keep going with the faith. You will be entangled in a hostile environment; we see that in the government, our jobs, and our families. We are told to submit to our authority in all of these instances. We have an evangelist obligation to make Christ known to everyone around us. The most compelling testimony we can give is how we act, especially when times get tough. What is the obligation of a believing wife with an unbelieving husband? Peter offers 6 verses to wives and 1 verse to husbands. Some people think it is because women like more in-depth conversations; we like details; men, on the other hand, typically like things a little more cut and dry. However, when Peter wrote this, women were considered little more than slaves or animals. If the wife was a believer, she ran the risk of her husband divorcing her over her new faith. It could also be very embarrassing for a husband to have his wife follow Christ.

So how does a saved wife win her spouse to Christ? How does she fulfill her mission? First, he does not tell her to leave the unbeliever and find a good Christian man. No, Peter says that God’s blessing will be poured out on her, and the husband will get some of that blessing, too. He wants them to stay married and not divorce. Don’t rebel, and don’t leave the husband unless the husband wants out. He doesn’t tell her to preach to him; he also doesn’t tell the wife that she is equal to her husband and demands her rights. The husband is still the head of the household regardless of who is saved. If you want the maximum impact on your husband, be a model and submissive wife.

Wives have three duties: we are to be submissive to the head of the household, similar to how the military works and we are to fall in line in order of rank. They have been given a role of submission to the husband, who has headship over the household. A wife’s gentle, loving, and submissive behavior to her spouse will be her most incredible testimony to her husband, not the words that she says to him. The second duty is to faithfulness and respectful behavior, which means irreproachable conduct. The last duty is to modesty. Women are typically preoccupied with their outward appearance but don’t forget about the inward appearance. Since the dawn of time, women have been obsessed with jewelry, clothing, hair, and makeup. This was especially true in Peter’s day. But Peter tells them to focus on what they look like on the inside. Don’t spend time and money adorning your body; that is not how you will win him to Christ. But adorn yourself with a gentle and quiet spirit. This will not only be attractive to your spouse but is also pleasing to God.

Peter also names Sarah as one of the models of a Christian wife. When I think of Sarah, I think of her failure to wait on the Lord. I focus on her flaws—they were big and had enormous consequences for the rest of human history. But Peter says that we are to act like her.

If you follow the faith of Abraham and the submission of Sarah, you will be children of them. That was the ultimate blessing, to be called a son or daughter of Abraham and Sarah. So we will use her as our human role model, flaws and all.

7 Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Now, the husbands only get one verse. Some people think it’s because men only need a few words to get the point of the message. Typically, men like to be told to start and end here; they don’t need the details the ladies usually enjoy. Another reason for the one verse is that, in Peter’s day, finding a saved husband and an unsaved wife was less frequent. Typically, if a man was saved, his wife was obligated to follow his faith. If she didn’t, the husband was allowed to divorce her; heck, he was even allowed to kill her if he caught her cheating. In those days, husbands could be harsh and ruthless to their wives, which was normal. So, what Peter tells the husbands is a complete 180 from what society expects of them. Peter wants a Christian husband to look differently. He wants them to be considerate and sensitive to her needs and feelings. He was to maintain deep intimacy with her. Peter also says to respect her because she is weaker. But look closely at those words; he doesn’t say she is weak but weaker. Weaker than who, her husband, because we are all weak without Christ. She is weaker, but he is weak, too, physically and mentally. Also, remember that she is a fellow heir and a husband’s gift; without her, he would not be able to continue on his family lineage. She is also to be considered a friend to him, and if her husband does not treat her the way Peter outlines, his prayers will not be answered. So, if a husband is gentle, considerate, and sensitive to his wife’s needs, God is more inclined to listen and consider his prayers.

Suffering for Doing Good

8 Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. 9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 10 For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. 11 They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

What does it mean to love life and see good days? The assumption is everyone wants to have a good day and a good life. This love of life is not talking about the pleasures of this world, such as money, power, and beauty, but rather the love of life as God wants us to enjoy. King Solomon was one of the wealthiest people ever but was not happy. He said he hated life and everything was fleeting. Solomon had everything people desired, yet he still needed to be fulfilled. The highest suicide rate in our country is among people over the age of 60 when they realize all their efforts and strife have not led to happiness. Few people have good days, are fulfilled, and are happy. But as Christians, we can have goodness and fulfillment even when our situation is less than desirable. We want our days to be productive, fulfilling, meaningful, satisfying, etc. These are the kind of days that everyone wants, but how do you get them?

Peters tells them four ways to love life and get good days. He first tells us we need to have the right attitude. We will never be without problems or the things we desire, but if your attitude is correct, you will see the blessings of God. He tells us to live in harmony with everyone; that sets us apart from the rest of society. This is not easy, but it is essential. The church should be the peacemaker of the world. We are also to be sympathetic to one another, to suffer with someone. We should be known and ready to suffer with others. We are not to be indifferent or condemning to the rest of the world but tender-hearted. We are to love with a brotherly love, bringing peace and harmony to those around us. We do not start riots or revolutions; we welcome the hurting and comfort them in their time of need. Finally, we are to be kind-hearted. We are to be tender-hearted, compassionate, and forgiving. This is the most profound human emotion. God was the ultimate compassionate being; He sent His son to die for us. What God wants us to be are people different from the world, always pursuing peace, eager to love and serve, always tender-hearted, always humble, and never demanding. We can look to Jesus as our perfect example of what all of this looks like. 

We can apply every single aspect of this to our marriage. We all want a happy marriage, but we can be guaranteed that in this life, we will have conflict and strife in our marriage. For some of us, those times are few and far between; for others, it is a daily occurrence. But Peter tells us not to seek revenge and to be careful of our words. Our spouse can hurt us in many ways in how he acts and says, but it is up to us how we respond to that. Remember that our job in this world is to seek peace, whether out in the world or in our own homes. If you seek peace with your spouse, you will find it. Lean on Jesus. (compassion) 11/20/24

13 Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14 But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. “Do not fear their threats; do not be frightened.” 

Throughout this letter, Peter tells the Christians how to act in a hostile environment. We don’t get a lot of that kind of suffering in our present day in the United States, but in Peter’s day, being a Christian could be reason enough to have you killed. So, how do you act in a world that hates you? Peter reminds the people of those days when we were chosen people by God, but we are also foreigners and aliens of this world. We are to be in the world, not of the world. It’s a challenging balance to live, but we must also win people over to the Lord. No matter what age we live, we have many interactions with the people of this world, and we are to have cause for confidence and joy whether we live in a hostile or peaceful time.

As we confront this hostile world, we should be passionate about doing what is good. Even in a hostile world, people are slow to hurt those of us who are kind. It’s easy to come against those who cheat, kill and destroy. Peter tells us to live our lives so the people of this world have to dig deep to persecute us. But Peter tells us that even if we do, we might still be persecuted, but if we are, we are to be considered blessed. I mean, after all, they did kill Jesus, and He was perfect, so it is not unreasonable for us to think that our lives will be void of harm. Just as Jesus was persecuted, we will most likely be too, but we know that this happens to us for our refinement, to make us more pure in our faith. Peter tells us not to fear the people who persecute us but rather fear God. He can do much more to us than any mere man. They can take your life, but only God has control over your soul. No matter what comes against you, your love and adoration should always be to the Lord first, and I will be loyal to Him no matter what. We are to please God with our loyal submission.

15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.

We should also always be ready to make a defense for why our hope is in the Lord our God rather than what is going on in the world, whether we are being persecuted in a formal trial in front of a judge or just by a stranger on the street. We should be able to give a rational defense as to why you are a Christian and why your hope is not in this world. We should be able to explain to people with good evidence and facts and be courageous enough to share our faith. Peter also tells us that we need to have a clear conscience so that we experience no pain or anxiety when we are criticized. If we are accused of something true and we have been living in an ungodly way, then we are not spared from the pain, anxiety, and punishment we will endure. What does your conscience say to you? Are you living right, living in loyal submission, living your life for Christ? If you are, then the thing you are being slandered for will hold no weight. The people of this world love to slander the people of faith. If they can prove such things, it makes them feel more righteous. But Peter tells us don’t give them a reason to slander you.

16 Keeping a clear conscience so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander. 17 For it is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil. 

We have options; we can suffer for doing what is right or wrong. If we suffer for doing what is right, we only have to face the consequences from the people of this world, but if we do wrong things, we will get our punishment from God. Either way, God will use that suffering to mold and shape us. We can use that good behavior to make us better models of Christ, or He can use our lousy behavior for our well-deserved punishment. There will always be pressure to compromise how you live. Compromise will lead you down a dark and troubled path.

18 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit. 19 After being made alive, he went and made a proclamation to the imprisoned spirits— 

Peter continually points us to Christ as our perfect example of how we are to conduct ourselves. We will suffer in the flesh; Christ is our model, and if He suffers, we will, too. He wants us to respond the way Christ did to our suffering, but he wants us to have victory and triumph in the same way. We not only need to have the right attitude when suffering, but we must also keep our eyes on the long game, meaning there will be some triumph. It might be on Earth, or it might be in Heaven; either way, we are still victorious. Even though Jesus suffered here on Earth and was crucified for doing what was right because of His death on the cross, now He has victory over death. In the darkest hours of Christ dying on the cross, Heaven was getting the victory. Jesus died so that we could be brought to God. Peter reminds us that we can count on suffering in the world because we are not perfect, but Christ was, and He suffered and paid the ultimate price. He endured the worst suffering, something many of us will never know. Most of us will not be put to death for following God. Peter also points out that Christ died once for the forgiveness of sin. The Jewish people were used to making blood sacrifices year after year. It needed to be done continually, but Christ’s death was a one-time event that covers all sins from the beginning of time throughout eternity. The death of Jesus Christ was ultimate, on behalf of sins, unique, comprehensive, vicarious, and purposeful. He died on purpose for us so we could have a relationship with God. This is why the veil was torn in two: because we no longer needed a high priest to speak on our behalf to God, and we now have direct communication with God. With that being said, one has to wonder why the Catholic church still practices that you must confess your sins to a priest in order to be forgiven. According to Peter, inspired by the Holy Spirit is 100% false teaching. We have direct access to God through Jesus, whose blood poured out for us. By accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior, Jesus then introduces us to God, and from then on, we have ultimate and unlimited access to God. The death of Jesus not only opened this relationship for us, but He also conquered the spiritual realm. Jesus, during His 3-day death, went and preached a sermon in the spiritual realm. Jesus’ death on the outside looked like a total failure. Our hero died, but He didn’t just die and stay dead; he is still alive. We now have a relationship with God, and all of the spiritual world heard His proclamation.

20 to those who were disobedient long ago when God waited patiently in the days of Noah while the Ark was being built. In it, only a few people, eight in all, were saved through water, 21 this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you also—not the removal of dirt from the body but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God. It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus Christ, 22, who has gone into Heaven and is at God’s right hand—with angels, authorities and powers in submission to him.

Peter uses Noah as an analogy to the triumphant salvation Christ has provided. Noah was a preacher and did so for 120 years while he built the Ark. During all those years of preaching, only eight people listened to his words, and only eight people were saved. The rest of the population would rather continue in their sin than repent and turn towards God, and because of that, they lost their lives when the flood came. Only eight people on the face of the Earth believed in God and were willing to follow His ways. But for those eight people, the Ark was their salvation. The Ark carried them from a world of sin into a brand new life by passing through judgment. They still had to go through it, but they were untouched and safe in the Ark. Peter now links the Ark to the believer. The believer is saved through Jesus, and we are not subject to God’s judgment. Just like Noah was placed in the Ark for safety, we have also been placed in a type of Ark that will save us. The judgment of God came upon Jesus, but Jesus is our Ark of safety because of His death and resurrection. Once the flood was over, Noah and his family walked out into a new life in a new world, just as we will have a new life in a new world in Heaven.

Then, we look at the glorious final note of triumph. Jesus went to Heaven and was at the right hand of God. Throughout the Old Testament and into the New and throughout eternity, the right hand of God is always seen as the seat of the highest preeminence.  The right hand of God is the place of strength.  The right hand of God is the place of authority.  It simply says that when Jesus had accomplished His work at the cross, He was exalted to the right hand of God, the place of prominence, honor, majesty, authority, and power. You see, because He was willing to submit Himself, God highly exalted Him, and it was through His suffering that He triumphed, and He now ranks above all beings. And now all angels and authorities and powers had been subjected to Him.

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November 2024: Study of 1 Peter 2

2 Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. 2 Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, 3 now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.

Have you ever seen a marriage that is full of slander and malice? I know I have. Some of those marriages not surprisingly ended up in divorce but some of them stayed married until the bitter end. I always wondered how you could stay married to someone that you obviously hate. Marriage is hard enough even when you are head over heels in love with someone. These toxic marriages that I saw were not Christian or had God at the center of their marriage. Sure the wife would sometimes go to church, but it was just more of a Sunday tradition rather than craving spiritual food. God doesn’t want our Christian marriages to look like those of non-believers. We are set apart and different from the rest of the world. As Peter says we have tasted and seen that the Lord is good. Other people do not know how good God is because they have never given their lives over to Him. And if we are not children of God, then by default we must be children of the Evil one. There is no in-between on neutral territory. No, in the spiritual world we are either saved or not, children of light or darkness, your father is either God or Satan.

Ladies, have you ever gone to those Bible studies where other women use the time of prayer requests to slander their husbands, all in the name of “I need prayer for this”? That is Satan working his way into your marriage, trying to destroy it from the inside out, all the while making it look like you are doing it for all the right reasons. The devil is crafty and he can make any kind of sin look good and appealing with the right makeup on it. Don’t fall for his lies, and don’t get sucked into conversations with other wives complaining about your spouses. In fact, do something different. Make a rule that only positive and uplifting talk about your husband comes from your mouth. If you are frustrated with him and don’t have anything nice to say, then do that in your personal prayer time. Your friends and family should think that your husband is the most wonderful man alive after they listen to how you talk about him. If you constantly slander your husband in front of others, they will eventually start to think he really is this terrible guy. Once they start thinking and believing those things to be true, it will be very hard to convince them otherwise. Plus, even if your husband is a handful right now, that doesn’t mean that he is not capable of change in the future. God works miracles every day and your husband could be one of them. So speak highly of him when you are among others, the more good things you find to say about him, the more you will notice your own opinion of him changes too.

The Living Stone and a Chosen People

4 As you come to him, the living Stone—rejected by humans but chosen by God and precious to him— 5 you also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. 6 For in Scripture it says:

“See, I lay a stone in Zion,

a chosen and precious cornerstone,

and the one who trusts in him

will never be put to shame.”

7 Now to you who believe, this stone is precious. But to those who do not believe,

“The stone the builders rejected

has become the cornerstone,”

8 and,

“A stone that causes people to stumble

and a rock that makes them fall.”

They stumble because they disobey the message—which is also what they were destined for.

What does it mean to be the cornerstone? In our modern society, this analogy can get lost on us, but back in Jesus’s day, the cornerstone was traditionally the first stone laid for a structure, with all other stones laid in reference. A cornerstone marks the geographical location by orienting a building in a specific direction. Historically, the cornerstone was the most important part of any building. The total weight of an edifice rested on this particular stone, which, if removed, would collapse the whole structure. The cornerstone was also the key to keeping the walls straight. The builders would take sightings along the edges of this part of the building. If the cornerstone was set properly, the stonemasons could be assured that all the other corners of the building would be at the appropriate angles as well. Thus, the cornerstone became a symbol of that which held life together. Jesus holds our lives together as well. He is the example that we look to keeping our eyes focused on him so that our lives don’t end up crooked. I know if Jesus was removed from my life, it would certainly crumble. In the last 60-70 years of the United States, we have slowly removed Jesus from our lives from taking Him out of schools to promoting divorce and abortion. No wonder our country is becoming weak and starting to crumble.

I also find it interesting that Peter says that our cornerstone (Jesus) was rejected by man and caused them to stumble, but chosen and precious to God. Isn’t it interesting that something precious to God, we put to death? If we don’t think we have a sinful nature, all we have to do is look at Jesus’ crucifixion. Some people will say that we have gotten better since then. I have a hard time believing that. Just because we don’t crucify people in the streets anymore doesn’t mean our hearts have changed. Now instead, we use abortion as a means of birth control. Our human hearts have been sick and sinful for a very long time, we just express it in different ways. Jesus is precious to God and yet we turn our back on Him and reject Him daily. But what if we stopped rejecting Him and made Him the cornerstone of not just our lives but our marriages? How different would our lives and our marriages look? For me, it would certainly change the things that I find annoying and bothersome. Sometimes it’s easy to fall into a pattern of complaining about the simple things in life. But I know if Jesus was sitting on my couch with me, I would never even think about complaining about the mail all over the island and how many shoes are lying all over the house. If Jesus were sitting on my couch, I hope I would be asking His advice on how to raise my kids and how to deal with difficult situations in my marriage. So instead of finding things to complain about, look at the bigger picture, open your Bibles, and ask God how to handle life. Just because Jesus isn’t physically sitting in your living room, doesn’t not mean that you don’t have Him living in your heart, and if you want to talk to Him, your Bible is your friend. It will tell you everything you need to know about Jesus and His answer to pretty much any problem life will throw your way.

9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 10 Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.

Do you ever stop to think that you are chosen by God or a royal priest? I know for me those can seem a little far-fetched. We see other instances throughout the Bible where Jesus reminds us that it was Him who pursued us, not the other way around. In John 15:16 Jesus says, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.” Ephesians 1:4 says, “He chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.” It is undeniable that God has chosen those who are believers in Jesus. But why? Is there something special about me that led God to choose me? The short answer is, no, God did not choose us because of anything inherent in ourselves. He chose us out of His love and mercy, and for His glory. We see that God’s choosing of us is linked to His love. God’s choice is something that gives Him pleasure and brings Him praise. God’s choosing of us highlights His gracious character, not our merit. We know we are not saved because of our good works but solely because of God’s grace. We are all sinners who fail to measure up to God’s glory (Romans 3:23). Apart from Jesus all deserve death (Romans 6:23). But in Jesus, we can have life. It is not because of who we are that God chooses us but because of who He is. And as Peter tells us in this passage, the proper response to being chosen by God is to declare God’s praise and give Him worship.

What about this Royal priesthood thing? Last time I checked I was neither royal nor a priest so why does Peter tell us this is how we are viewed by God? In the ancient world, a priest was responsible for leading the ritual worship of a deity, especially in correctly offering the proper sacrifices. Priests were “selected from among the people” and were “appointed to represent the people in matters related to God, to offer gifts and sacrifices for sins.” Priests were also considered to be distinct from ordinary people. In God’s eyes, we are very distinct from nonbelievers. We are told in (1 John 3:10) Anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister. We are either considered a child of God or not, and if not, our default is to being a child of Satan. We, just like the priests have been selected, and set apart, for service to God. The priests were doing something that other people were not allowed to do. As Christ’s church, we are a royal priesthood to declare the praises of God. And each of us, as a part of that royal priesthood, is responsible for offering sacrifices pleasing to God and representing God to the world around us. Being a part of this royal priesthood is both a privilege and a responsibility.

We were also told that once we were not a people and once we had not received mercy but everything changes when you get saved. Now you are a child of God and all your sins are washed away by Jesus’ blood.

Living Godly Lives in a Pagan Society

11 Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul. 12 Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.

Living in a pagan place can definitely be challenging. Sometimes I feel like the United States, even though we were founded on Christian principles, has quickly backslid into a pagan, God-hating society. Since we live in a Nation that is so hostile towards God, in their words and actions, how do we as Christians stand out? I look to President Trump, even though he is not a shining example of a Christian, he is living proof of how others tried to destroy him, and accuse him of all kinds of terrible things, and yet the truth prevailed and he stood innocent before them. It’s difficult when you live in a pagan society not to get caught up in the evil things that they are doing. At first, the little things may not seem so bad and we are all inclined to want to fit in with the people we spend lots of time with. But we must be the light upon the hill and stand out for all to see. Don’t give them any ammunition against you, they already don’t like you because you are a Christian. So show them how the ideal Christian behaves, not the Christian that they are afraid everyone is like, a hypocrite. (resist sin)  

13 Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human authority: whether to the emperor, as the supreme authority, 14 or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those who do right. 15 For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish people. 16 Live as free people, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as God’s slaves. 17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.

With an election coming up, this verse is a helpful reminder of how we are to behave while we are still here on the earth. We are to submit ourselves to every human authority. That does not mean that human authority will always treat us right or fairly. There are always innocent people in jail and people who pay consequences that are not appropriate for their sins. Remember in Romans when we are told “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.” Romans 13:1. God raises up good leaders and the bad ones. We never know what God’s plan is for us here on this earth but we still need to act as Christians and obey the authorities.

In Christ, we are free from the penalty of sin eternally speaking but that does not mean that the penalty of sin here on earth will not have real consequences. As Christians we are free from the power of sin, we are no longer slaves to sin but that certainly does not mean that we are given permission to sin. We are free in Christ but not free to live however we want, indulging the flesh believers aren’t free to sin, but free to live holy lives in Christ. Christian freedom is one of the many paradoxes of the Christian faith. True freedom means willingly becoming a slave to Christ, and no longer being a slave to sin. Being a slave to Christ is not like any other type of slavery. When we become a slave to Christ it does not mean what we think of slavery, it means that we must humbly serve one another instead of seeking position and status, we remember the Lord’s teaching that the greatest in His kingdom are those who serve others. As bondservants of Christ, like Paul, we are to live to please God and not people, “doing the will of God from the heart” We bow down to Him alone. Our priority should always start with loving and honoring God and then taking that love and showing it to others.

18 Slaves, in reverent fear of God, submit yourselves to your masters, not only to those who are good and considerate but also to those who are harsh. 

As we continue down the topic of submission to authority, we are told to submit to our good masters and the mean ones. Even though we don’t have slaves and masters anymore, we do have management and employees. Most of us can identify with having one of each of these types of bosses. There will always be wonderful people to work for and others who will be harsh and difficult to please. It doesn’t matter the kind of person who we are working for, we are still called to be a light in this dark world. We are called to treat kind people and harsh people all the same. Sure it’s a lot easier to be nice and hard-working to someone who’s nice to you, everyone can do that but we are not everyone and we were made to stand out and be different because of Christ’s blood that saves us. You never know when your good behavior and willingness to obey authority will catch the eye of the unbeliever and turn their world upside down.

9 For it is commendable if someone bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because they are conscious of God. 20 But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. 21 To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.

22 “He committed no sin,

and no deceit was found in his mouth.”

23 When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. 

How many of us want to retaliate when we are being lied about or falsely accused? It is our human nature to protect our reputation and our honor, but Jesus did no such thing. He acted as our example in all situations. He showed us that in some circumstances it doesn’t matter what we say or that we made no mistakes along the way, if people want you destroyed and gone, there is nothing that will stand in their way. I’m sure we have all had those arguments with people that no matter how much fact and logic we tell them, they don’t want to hear it. The same was true for Jesus. Everyone who was falsely accusing Him did not care about the truth, they didn’t care that He was the son of God, all they knew was that He wasn’t fitting the mold of what they thought the messiah should be. As Peter reminds us, he did not retaliate, He didn’t threaten them, He trusted His life to God the Father. I know when I am facing opposition and condemnation, I have a hard time staying silent and trusting in God’s plan for my life. I want to stand up and fight and let people know that Jesus was perfect but I’m a close second and this is an injustice. What if instead we just surrendered to God and let Him be in control of what happens in our lives? Like the Jewish leaders who wanted Jesus dead, sometimes there is nothing that we can say that will change the minds of those who accuse us.

24 “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” 25 For “you were like sheep going astray,” but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.

Remember at the Lord’s supper when Jesus told us that His body would be given up for us? He died for us, He gave up His life for us, and He suffered for us. Christ suffered for us to follow in His steps, and to be our example. He suffered patiently and enduringly but His suffering was more unjust than anything we could ever go through because we are sinful. He also suffered as our substitute, as the one who took our place. In Isaiah 53 we learn more about the prophecy of what Jesus was to endure on our behalf. Christ paid that price that we could not pay so that we can be free. God does not transfer the penalty from the guilty to the innocent, but He bears it himself. We are not tainting God by giving Him our sins, He willingly took them from us. He took on our sins voluntarily, with no outside influences forcing Him to do so. The word “bore” means to carry a heavy weight. The heavy weight of sin is so heavy that it even makes creation groan. Bearing inequity means to endure the punishment that we deserve. In God’s realm, our punishment is eternal separation from God in Hell. It’s not just physical punishment but also spiritual punishment. He did more than forgive us of sin and the removal of guilt. He did this to change us, to transform us into righteous people, not to stay as the sinful people we once were.

Jesus had to save us because we were constantly going astray. Isaiah also makes this statement. This straying means we are continually turning toward sin. Now we turn not towards our sin but towards Jesus, our shepherd and guardian. Jesus is referred to many times throughout the Bible as our shepherd. Jesus guards, oversees and guides His sheep, even to the point of death for us. It is easy in this life to be led astray by all the fancy and shiny things that we think will make us happy, but Jesus is always close by, keeping an eye on us to help us stay focused on the truth. Jesus is truth and He is our life source. It is in our best interest that we stay close to Him so that we are protected and safe. But if we do go astray, we know that Jesus will leave the 99 to find the one.

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October 2024: 1 Peter 1, An apostle of Jesus Christ,

To God’s elect, exiles scattered throughout the provinces of Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia and Bithynia, 2 who have been chosen according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to be obedient to Jesus Christ and sprinkled with his blood:

Grace and peace be yours in abundance.

Praise to God for a Living Hope

3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This inheritance is kept in heaven for you, 5 who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have suffered grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. We should always praise our Lord. Even if we are walking through dark circumstances we know that we have an inheritance that this world can not take away from us no matter how hard others may try. Thankfully our inheritance is stored in heaven for us where no moth, rust or fire can destroy it. Peter reminds us that in this world we will have all kinds of trials. For some of us, our trials are focused on our marriage. Being married is not always easy. We are two totally different people, raised in different ways, with different hopes and goals for our future. That alone is just the tip of the iceberg on the mountain of problems that we can face in our marriage. Sometimes when I take a look at other marriages and the struggles they go through, it makes me rethink the significance of my own problems in our marriage. When I look at how some marriages struggle with addiction to porn, actions from their past that come back to haunt them, or how they have suffered devastating heartbreak. But Peter says no matter what we suffer, big or small, it is to refine our faith, and by that, we show Jesus honor and glory. Jesus doesn’t cause bad things to happen in our lives just so that He can get the glory. Bad things happen in our lives because we live in a sinful and fallen world. We unlike Jesus do not live sinless lives. We are bound to sin no matter how much we try not to. Why? Because we are all sons and daughters of Adam and Eve, the sin curse was placed on them and every generation to follow. Even creation itself bears the curse of sin. We have weeds and pests that destroy crops, animals by the hundreds that can kill us easily and plenty of food that can and does make us sick. Sin is all around us and there is no way for us to escape it until we are in heaven. Peter says that these trials happen to us so that our faith is tested. We need to prove to God and ourselves how genuine our love for the Lord really is. If you encounter one bump in the road and then you ditch Jesus for something better, obviously your faith was only on the inside. There was no changed heart. You were only honoring him with your lips for the approval of man. I’m sure we all know people like that. They look like the perfect Christian on the outside but as soon as trials hit them, they bail. Maybe they just liked having Christian friends or they liked the people at church rather than at work, but no matter what the reason, their true intentions will show at some point in time. Then you have the others who it seems like no matter what life throws at them, no matter how bad the hurt, they keep praising Jesus. Sometimes Jesus is all we have at the end of the day. We may lose our friends, family, jobs, and house and all that’s left is you and Jesus. But He is all that you need, and He is the only one who can rebuild your life. Sometimes when it is just you and Jesus left standing, you realize how much you need Him, love Him, and completely trust and worship Him. You also see how much He loves you – in case you forgot about the cross – but you get to see His love in a very real way in your own life. Some people need big tragedies and trials to see it while others don’t. Either way, that overwhelming sense of love that you have for Jesus is expressed with praise and honor. I mean how else do you show the God of this world how much you love Him? Don’t let trials get you down, this may be the time when you feel closest and most loved by God.

8 Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls. 10 Concerning this salvation, the prophets, who spoke of the grace that was to come to you, searched intently and with the greatest care, 11 trying to find out the time and circumstances to which the Spirit of Christ in them was pointing when he predicted the sufferings of the Messiah and the glories that would follow. 12 It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves but you, when they spoke of the things that have now been told you by those who have preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. Even angels long to look into these things.

If you are like me, you read the New Testament and think about how lucky the apostles were to be side by side with Jesus for three years. They ate with him, drank with him, and witnessed miracles firsthand. I know how I feel just reading about the miracles, I couldn’t imagine how I would feel if I saw one right before my very eyes. Even though we can look back at that point in time and think how lucky they were to be there with Jesus, many of the prophets and Old Testament people thought that we, the people on the other side of the cross, were the lucky ones. If you think about it, we have a perfect 20/20 hindsight vision of everything from the dawn of time and seeing scripture unfold through history, fulfilling proficay after proficy. Peter tells us that even the angels get excited about our salvation, and if angels love to look at the work of God in saving sinners like us, how much more should we who are the very beneficiaries of that salvation (not just onlookers) love to look into it and be thankful for it. When was the last time you thought about your salvation? The price it cost, the love it took, you know…all of it. It’s something as Christians that we think about when we get saved but not a whole lot after that. Sometimes we don’t want to think about it. There is so much emotion wrapped up in the cross and our salvation that it makes me ugly cry every time. As believers, I think it is good for us to take a step back and consider our salvation, to just really evaluate our lives, and how we are living out God’s calling on our lives. Most people around the age of 40-50 go through some sort of mid-life crisis. They realize that their time here on this earth is running out and most of the time they think about all the things they haven’t gotten to do or experience. Sometimes this involves sports cars or career changes. But when if we did a salvation mid-life crisis. What if we sat down and asked the hard questions? How am I doing at my job for God? Am I preaching the gospel, am I telling people about Jesus, does my behavior model that of our savior? It’s so easy for us to get comfortable with how things are going that we don’t stretch ourselves and flex our spiritual muscles. This can be a really good exercise for couples to do together. Discuss what you are doing well and what needs to be improved upon in your spiritual life with your spouse. Don’t be too hard on yourselves, not everyone is able to or needs to sell everything and move to a foreign land and become missionaries. You can be an amazing missionary to your family, friends, and co-workers right where you are but growth nonetheless is needed.

13 Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. 14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy because I am holy.”

As a child, I couldn’t wait to grow up and be an adult. I couldn’t wait until I could make my own rules, and do what I wanted when I wanted. Then you grow up to be an adult and you realize that you can do whatever you want but there are consequences for everything. Then when you get saved you become a child again, a child of God this time. God expects us to be obedient to Him, our heavenly father. We are told not to conform to our evil desires. From birth, we have certain ways that we act. At first, they are for self-preservation but then later they develop into more complex emotions and behaviors. As a baby, which is at the mercy of the world around it (and its own needs), we really have no ego to speak of until we begin to differentiate ourselves from our caregivers and the demands of the outer environment. Then as we grow to become toddlers, we become impulsive, driven by our emotions, including sexual and aggressive drives, and interpret caregiver responses in black-and-white terms as either being ”nice to me” or ”mean to me.” The world is ”good” if it meets my needs and ”bad” if it doesn’t. As small children, we are only able to focus on present events rather than being caught up in the past or future. As children, we are very selfish. It isn’t until we grow and mature that we start to consider others, start to consider how our current actions will affect our future, and so forth. The same should be true as we grow and mature as Christians. We are called to be sober-minded and act in holy ways because now our heavenly father is Holy, unlike our earthly fathers. He wants us to stand out so that when others see us, they can immediately recognize who our father is. This also includes acting holy even when things are difficult with your spouse. Your spouse is also a child of God and even the times when he is not acting holy, you still need to do so.

17 Since you call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear. 18 For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, 19 but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. 20 He was chosen before the creation of the world but was revealed in these last times for your sake. 21 Through him you believe in God, who raised him from the dead and glorified him, and so your faith and hope are in God. 22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. 24 For,

“All people are like grass,

and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;

the grass withers and the flowers fall,

25 but the word of the Lord endures forever.”

And this is the word that was preached to you.

Have you ever thought about how truly short our time on this earth is. Sometimes that thought is just so deep it’s hard to grasp or understand. The thought of dying someday can feel overwhelming and very scary, but as born-again Christians, we know that our physical lives will end but then we go on to spend eternity with Jesus in heaven. We have been reborn again with an imperishable seed so when our body withers away and eventually dies, our soul lives on forever. But what about the time that we have here on this Earth? Peter tells us we have been purified and that we are to obey God so we can have sincere love for one another. But what does it mean to have sincere love for others? Sincere love is not something we are used to here in our sin-cursed world. Most of the time we love people when they make us feel good, but what about those who are difficult to be around and therefore difficult to love? In this world, people will not keep you happy 100% of the time. This is why you need to learn to love them even when they seem to be unlovable.

When we hear of people getting divorced and we ask them what the issues were, inevitably you will hear one of the reasons be, “I’m just not happy anymore”. I do not dismiss that some people have incredibly difficult marriages and circumstances that they live through, but we are called to stay married until death do us part, not until our happiness fades. Your spouse is the one person on planet Earth who should love you unconditionally. Unfortunately, we don’t know what unconditional love looks like. Only God truly understands that kind of love. As we walk and grow in our relationship with Jesus, we should grow in our marriages and understand that love is just more than having lustful feelings or being happy 24/7. Love means sticking by your spouse no matter what he may be walking through. Life gets tough and hard but if you throw in the towel every time that happens, you are cheating yourself and others from valuable learning experiences. I don’t know about you but I learn the most and grow closer to God when I am going through trials. Sincere love is all about sticking by your spouse, comforting him, and praying for him and with him. Unbelievers walk away from their marriages. If you claim to be a Christian then you need to stick by your spouse instead of walking away. Walking away is easy but if God wanted us to have easy lives, He would fix all the problems in our lives the instant we were born again. We know that He does not spare us from the trials of this life. He is testing our faith and seeing if our actions line up with our behavior. What does your behavior say about you??

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A New Beginning

Welcome back, friends. I wanted to share with you how things are going to be changing around here at 2 Lives 1 Flesh. I was starting to feel like the topics I was talking about surrounding marriage were getting a little repetitive and none of us have time for that. What I also found missing out on my own personal bible study time, was a focused and thorough exploration of different books of the bible. So I decided to do a monthly bible study where we will go through different books of the Bible and talk about what it looks like to grow in Christ and to grow in our marriages. I will try to always point things back to how a topic can affect your marriage. These will be longer studies than my weekly blogs, and they will be posted on the first Wednesday of every month, but I am hoping you guys will like them and get some good Bible knowledge in the process. Please let me know how you like things and if you have certain books you would like me to cover. I will be starting off with 1 Peter. I can’t wait to hear what everyone thinks next week.

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Don’t Let The Sun Go Down On Your Anger

God made every single one of us different and unique. With that, we differ in the way that we handle our emotions, especially our anger. When two people with different personalities, preferences, and quirks live together, they’re bound to become irritated or angry sometimes. However, anger can be different in each marriage based on how it’s expressed and managed. People often learn to disguise their anger and deal with it through masking behaviors such as gritting their teeth. The other extreme is allowing anger to escalate to flat-out rage. And as we learn in the Bible, anger is not in itself bad, Jesus had righteous anger. Most famously, Jesus became angry in the temple when religious profiteers were exploiting people. In response to the regular injustice being practiced, Jesus made a whip and overturned tables. But as we have all come to notice, we are certainly not Jesus and so we need to manage our emotions appropriately. God gave us a heart and a brain — emotions and logic. Both are necessary and affect our decision-making and worldview. Anger itself isn’t the problem. Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. We have to find Biblical ways of handling our anger without holding our anger inside and becoming passive-aggressive behaviors or just openly and uncontrollably venting our emotions

Anger and other negative emotions can have an impact on our marriage, that is why we must figure out how to control those emotions with the instructions from the Bible. God tells us, Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4: 29-32. We are told to get rid of bitterness and anger and instead be compassionate and forgiving. If we stay focused on all the things that we have been forgiven of, it makes forgiving our spouse a lot easier. The only one who was perfect was Jesus, the rest of us all fall short on an hourly basis, so forgive your spouse and help them to forgive you. A world without forgiveness is not a world many of us want to be a part of.

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Honesty Is Key

We are told not to keep secrets from our spouses and not to lie to them. But being honest with your spouse is a little more complicated than just communication that is free from lies. Sometimes you can be too honest with your spouse. Being honest with them does not mean saying the first thing that pops into your head, nor does it mean getting something off your chest. When you are being honest with your spouse you need to do so in a way that reflects God’s love, and that means giving the right information in the right way. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:25-27. Sometimes as the years tick by in our marriage we start to lose the ability we lose the ability to share important information with our spouse. We stop coordinating our lives and spending quality time together. This is why you often hear people say that they have just drifted apart. Honest communication is the glue that holds every relationship together. Some couples have mastered the art of honesty in marriage, but they have no concept of tenderness. Nagging, criticism, and sarcasm are offered freely without a second thought about how they might be received. In a couple’s dogged pursuit of honesty, they might use words that tear each other down rather than build each other up.

When you commit to being honest with your spouse that means being completely transparent with him and having nothing to hide from each other, being totally vulnerable with each other can be scary at first, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. And it can transform your marriage into a safe, sweet, and most intimate relationship. Words can draw us closer to each other, or they can drive us further apart. Try to eliminate criticism, profanity, and little white lies (like “I’m fine”) from your vocabulary. Instead, speak the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. Ephesians 4:15. As a loving spouse, you need to speak the truth wrapped in tenderness and grace, even when it may be difficult to hear or say. Tenderhearted transparency is an often-overlooked secret to lifelong love that requires the courage to confess our sins and shortcomings to each other without judgment, and the grace to offer and receive forgiveness. It also means refusing to keep score of one another’s faults. As you practice tenderhearted transparency and honesty in your marriage — being vulnerable with each other, speaking the truth in love, and giving one another grace, forgiveness, and encouragement — you’ll be amazed at the difference this will make in your relationship.

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Honoring Your Husband

On our wedding days, most of us promised something along the lines of “I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband, for better or worse, in sickness and in health for as long as we both shall live”. At the time we mean that and we definitely want to live out those vows to the fullest but after the honeymoon is over, life starts setting in with all of its challenges, disappointments, and temptations. Suddenly those vows that you said seem harder and harder to fulfill. If we are not careful our marriage can become more transactional. If you give me what I want and keep me happy, I will do the same for you, but if you mistreat me, I will also do the same to you. That’s a far cry from for better or worse, but for better or worse, it means still honoring and respecting your spouse even when he is doing the exact opposite to you. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. (Philippians 2:5-7) We start our marriages off serving our spouse but then use him to serve ourselves. Most of us do start out with the best of intentions but due to our sin nature, we are naturally inclined to fall away from the type of love that God requires and tend to sink into the transactional love that Satan temps us with.

When you start to honor your husband, you are showing him that he has value and importance to you. He becomes more than just a paycheck, more than just a security guard, and more than a lover. Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Romans 12:9-11. How do we honor one another before ourselves? First, we can use our words to uplift and affirm. We can express love, appreciation, and support by regularly complimenting your positive qualities. We can also express gratitude for both the big and small things he does reinforcing your appreciation for his efforts. You can also do something for him as a way to show your love and appreciation. You can cook him his favorite meal or create a relaxing space for him at home. Spending quality time together is another way to honor your spouse. Plan regular date nights or special evenings together to show him you value spending quality time with him. By being devoted to your spouse and honoring him, you are putting God’s love into action. Does this mean that it will make your marriage perfect? No, we are still humans living in a fallen world but we have a lifetime to spend with our spouses, why not make it the best lifetime for both you and him?

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Not Good To Be Alone

One of the most damaging and long-lasting effects of COVID-19 was not from the virus itself but from the isolation we all had to experience due to it. The isolation that we were forced into has had a massive ripple effect on our mental health but why is that? Because God never wanted us to be alone or to be isolated. That was never his intention for mankind and that is why at the very beginning of creation, He tells us very clearly The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18. Even modern medicine agrees that it is bad for people to be alone and isolated. They found that socially isolated people were 50 percent more likely to have a premature death. Loneliness and social isolation are also associated with increased blood pressure, higher cholesterol levels, depression, and, if that weren’t bad enough, decreases in cognitive abilities and Alzheimer’s disease. God designs a perfect way for us never to be alone again. Once we get married we are bound spiritually to our spouse. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. Just because we are no longer alone, doesn’t mean that all of our problems are solved and married life will be an easy coast down a lazy river. No, two people becoming one flesh requires love, submission, and humility.

God illustrates marriage so beautifully about becoming one flesh, but as we all know sometimes being one flesh can get under our skin from time to time. So how do we fight this outside turmoil constantly trying to separate us, when God has called us to act as one? Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19. Marriage and becoming one flesh is all about give and take. You can’t be in a marriage where only one person is giving and the other one is only taking. This is exactly why wives are to be submissive and husbands are to be gentle. The way that we treat our spouse should be a direct reflection of how Christ treats His bride – the Church. As a wife, it is important to respect your husband’s God-given role as leader of the household but also to come alongside him and encourage him when life becomes challenging. Your husband has a lot of responsibility placed on him when he gets married and has a family. Ultimately he is responsible for his family’s welfare both physically and spiritually. So assist your husband and be the support and companion that God so perfectly designed a wife to be. Being a Godly wife is not easy at all, but the better we become at it, the better and stronger our marriage will be.

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Love Is…

We all have certain ways of thinking about love and what that looks like. Most of the time we don’t have a clue what true love really looks like. This is why we should turn to Jesus as our perfect example of what love is and how it is put into action. We often think that love is synonymous with happiness. That is someone who makes you happy and pulls out all the stops to keep you that way, that must be love. Depending on your husband to keep you happy so that you will stay in love with him is not only and inaccurate description of love but is also very shallow and fleeting. Imagine worrying every time your spouse got mad at you, that somehow that love would cease with his emotions. This can lead us down a dangerous path of needing to please people constantly and making our spouses into idols. If we never want them angry then he might not love me anymore and he will leave, turning him into a god who must be worshiped and kept happy all the time. Sometimes we suffer in our marriages because we build up these false expectations of love and marriage that keep us building the ladder to heaven. They said to each other, “Come, let’s make bricks and bake them thoroughly.” They used brick instead of stone, and tar for mortar. Then they said, “Come, let us build ourselves a city, with a tower that reaches to the heavens, so that we may make a name for ourselves; otherwise we will be scattered over the face of the whole earth.” Genesis 11:3-4. We all have different reasons for wanting to build our tower that reaches heaven. Sometimes we think, that once we get to heaven things will be safe and secure or that our trouble will be gone if we could just run up the tower at any point and have direct access to God.

I don’t know about you but I am so glad that love does look like all the ways we imagine it to be. Jesus showed us what love looks like all throughout his ministry. His love did not always include making people happy. Think about when Lazarus died, Jesus stayed away an extra two days, and then when He did get to town, everyone was upset, thinking He was too late. “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died. John 11:21. Jesus delayed His coming to Lazarus because He loved them and because He needed to show them the glory of God. Even when Jesus would heal people and perform miracles for them, they still hated Him. Then they brought him a demon-possessed man who was blind and mute, and Jesus healed him, so that he could both talk and see. All the people were astonished and said, “Could this be the Son of David?” But when the Pharisees heard this, they said, “It is only by Beelzebul, the prince of demons, that this fellow drives out demons.” Matthew 12:22-24. And of course, there was the best act of love in history with Jesus dying on the cross so that we could be in heaven with Him. These acts of love did not make people feel all warm and fuzzy inside, nor did it make them happy all the time. Love is acting in a way that is honoring to God, compassionate, and self-sacrificing. Let’s redefine love with Jesus’ definition, not our own.

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