Not Good To Be Alone

One of the most damaging and long-lasting effects of COVID-19 was not from the virus itself but from the isolation we all had to experience due to it. The isolation that we were forced into has had a massive ripple effect on our mental health but why is that? Because God never wanted us to be alone or to be isolated. That was never his intention for mankind and that is why at the very beginning of creation, He tells us very clearly The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18. Even modern medicine agrees that it is bad for people to be alone and isolated. They found that socially isolated people were 50 percent more likely to have a premature death. Loneliness and social isolation are also associated with increased blood pressure, higher cholesterol levels, depression, and, if that weren’t bad enough, decreases in cognitive abilities and Alzheimer’s disease. God designs a perfect way for us never to be alone again. Once we get married we are bound spiritually to our spouse. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. Just because we are no longer alone, doesn’t mean that all of our problems are solved and married life will be an easy coast down a lazy river. No, two people becoming one flesh requires love, submission, and humility.

God illustrates marriage so beautifully about becoming one flesh, but as we all know sometimes being one flesh can get under our skin from time to time. So how do we fight this outside turmoil constantly trying to separate us, when God has called us to act as one? Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19. Marriage and becoming one flesh is all about give and take. You can’t be in a marriage where only one person is giving and the other one is only taking. This is exactly why wives are to be submissive and husbands are to be gentle. The way that we treat our spouse should be a direct reflection of how Christ treats His bride – the Church. As a wife, it is important to respect your husband’s God-given role as leader of the household but also to come alongside him and encourage him when life becomes challenging. Your husband has a lot of responsibility placed on him when he gets married and has a family. Ultimately he is responsible for his family’s welfare both physically and spiritually. So assist your husband and be the support and companion that God so perfectly designed a wife to be. Being a Godly wife is not easy at all, but the better we become at it, the better and stronger our marriage will be.