Dealing With Sin

There will always be some sort of sin in our marriage because we are sinful people, living in a sinful world. For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23. But everyone’s sin looks different. Some sin you wouldn’t even know is around because it is hidden so well, but no sin can be hidden from God. So the issue becomes not what to do or how to handle if your spouse sins against you, but WHEN your spouse sins against you. We don’t have a lot of control over everything in this world but we do have control over how we respond to different situations. When your spouse sins against you, whether he asks for forgiveness or not, you should graciously bestow forgiveness on him. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32. That is much easier said than done, you don’t know what he has done to me. True some sin can be life-shattering, but put it in the perspective of how you sinned against Christ. Your sins nailed Him to that cross. It was because of your sin that He was beaten, mocked, and betrayed. That is what your sin did to the King of Kings.

Now the bright side, is that we all feel utterly depressed now. The good news is you have been forgiven, wiped clean and since we have been forgiven of so much, we need to further extend that love and grace to our spouses. Remember the parable of the Unforgiving Servant in Matthew 18:21-35. The story of a servant who was forgiven a massive debt, only to refuse forgiveness to another servant who owed a relatively small debt. That is what our debt against Jesus is like compared to our spouse’s sin against us. But since we also sin against our spouse and need forgiveness, we can start at the very beginning and try to get rid of the ways we sin. It all starts with controlling your sinful thoughts. Be aware when you are thinking thoughts that are selfish, vengeful, bitter, or in any way biblical. A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Luke 6:45. So if your mouth is an overflow of your heart. Change what is in your heart. Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. 1 Timothy 4:7. If you focus on being more Godly and filling your mind with scripture and songs of praise to our Lord, that will become all you can think and talk about. So fill up on God’s word and watch your behavior and thinking change right before your eyes