Good Communication

True oneness with your spouse can only be achieved with good communication. Open and honest communication must be at the center of every marriage for it to meet its full potential. For who knows a person’s thoughts except the spirit within them? In the same way, no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. 1 Corinthians 2:11. We all think we know our spouses and that they know us in return, but we can’t really know one another in depth until we open our hearts to our spouse. Think you really know your spouse, and they you? Have you heard your spouse say, “I had no idea that was going on, or that you have been feeling this way, Why didn’t you tell me?” Because your spouse doesn’t know things about you unless you act a certain way or vocalize something. There is always something that we are hiding from our spouses, whether it’s big or small, intentional or not. Being open and honest with your spouse is not always easy because we are sinful people and we have a lot of emotions that we can’t always control. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. James 3:5. Ever had word vomit? I know I have, you say something that you were thinking but didn’t really mean for it to be said out loud, and then out of your rage and anger, it comes spilling out of our mouths without restriction. And this word vomit leaves a wake of destruction everywhere it goes.

God, however, knows exactly what is going on in our hearts, sometimes before we do. But because God is so perfect and we are not, we must train our tongue. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29. Communication between two sinful people can be difficult. Often during arguments we tend to think that silence is golden, but responding to opposition that way will never lead you to a close relationship. Instead, self-control in our speech should be exercised, issues must be dealt with, and disagreements must be calmly and respectfully discussed. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26. Every couple will have their fair share of arguments. How you handle them together, after prayer to the Lord, will determine how tight of a bond you will have with your spouse. Disagreements can either open the door to let the devil in between you and your spouse, or they can allow that space to be closed tightly, leaving no room for deception and mistrust.