How Do You Know?

How do you know if the one you are about to marry is the one? The divorce rate in America is over 50%, how do you know, yours won’t be one of them? How do you know with so much to agree on and all the intricate parts of marriage, that yours will stand the test of time? The fact is, the only one who knows is God, but if you and your husband keep God at the center of your marriage, your outlook is much brighter. You see right after God created the world, He made Adam but didn’t want him to be alone so then He made Eve and joined them together in marriage. Marriage is so important to God that He created it right away, as soon as one man and one woman inhabited the Earth. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones

 and flesh of my flesh;

she shall be called ‘woman,’

 for she was taken out of man.”

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:22-24. 

 In the New Testament, you will learn that the church is Jesus’ bride and we are getting ready for an amazing wedding ceremony when He returns. So why do we have to worry about our relationships, when God is the designer of marriage? If you keep reading Genesis you will see it didn’t take long for sin to enter the world, and that my friends is where things start to fall apart. But don’t you fret your pretty little head, God has made a way out of every problem for us, even death. So we cling to Jesus with all of our might and hold fast to His promises.

So when you fight with your spouse, consider a few things about who you are, and who Christ is. First Jesus had to come to Earth to save us from our sin. Paul tells us in Romans 3:23, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. That means we are all sinners, we all are tempted, we all fall into sin. So don’t think when you are arguing with your spouse that you are the better Christian and that you are a perfect angel from God. Secondly, only God is perfect, and even though God is perfect and we are sinners, He still continuously forgives us. There is not a time where as believers, we ask for forgiveness and He replies with, just give me some time, or I’m still so mad at you. No, His response is always immediate forgiveness. So forgiveness for our spouses should look the same. We should never hold back on love or forgiveness because God never holds those things back from us. Third God is long suffering. Think about the Israelites in the desert or how humanity constantly turns their backs on God, yet he keeps calling us home and forgiving us. Our relationship with our spouse should be the same way. We should never grow tired of loving and forgiving them. Of course, all these are impossible to achieve without God’s help. So seek Him today. Seek His strength, His love, His gentleness, and His forgiveness. None of these things will guarantee you a perfect marriage, but through Christ, all things are possible.