It’s Not Fair!

It can be very challenging when you have a spouse who doesn’t behave or act like a Christian 100% of the time. Oh wait, that’s all of us. Yes, in our christian walk, we stumble and fall down, but hopefully we have a spouse who is ready and willing to forgive us and walk beside us. That is easier said than done. Sometimes when your spouse is treating you badly or making poor decisions, we tend to default to act that way too. That way he knows what he looks and sounds like, right? But is that how we are called to act as Christians? Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. Ephesians 5:1-2. So we are supposed to live as an example of Christ. Did you notice what it didn’t say, only if others treat you right. You see God knows that we will be used and abused in this life, but our response to those situations is what makes us different from the rest of the world. Modern society says if your spouse cheats on you, you are then free to cheat on him, you know make things fair. But God didn’t tell us to make things fair, or get even, he told us to turn the other cheek. We are made different from the world because we answer to The God, not to the god of ourselves.

I am the Lord, and there is no other.

I create the light and make the darkness.

I send good times and bad times.

I, the Lord, am the one who does these things. Isiah 45: 7

God sends us good times and bad. During the bad times, its easy to think that God is punishing you for something but that might not be the case. What if He is trying to build your character and make you stronger? He did that with Job when he let Satan take everything from him. Job had the question we all do, why? Why if you love me, do you allow bad things to happen? God’s response to him was amazing. To paraphrase he tells him because I know what is best for you. “Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? Tell me, if you know so much. Who determined its dimensions and stretched out the surveying line? Job 38:4-5. Now that is a sobering thought. God not only created all of heaven and earth but he manages every second of our lives, who are we to pout and tell him that life’s not fair?

So when you feel like the world is turning against you, or your spouse is not acting like he should, first pray for him. Then instead of asking why, and I know there are so many terrible situations out there, but thank God for these trials and ask Him to help you through these troubled waters. But most of all, be a representative of Jesus. Work at living in peace with everyone, and work at living a holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord. Hebrews 12:14. You never know who is watching, and who you will help win to the Lord just by your behavior.