Don’t Go To Bed Angry

Anger

A great marriage requires a husband and wife who are quick to apologize and forgive quickly. However, we often use the excuse of, I need time to process, my heart needs time to heal, and I can’t rush forgiveness. A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1Of course there’s the other one we all say and do, “Im not the one who needs to apologize, he is, I have done nothing wrong.” The more time that passes during an argument, the more destructive they can become. Have you ever noticed that when you start arguing, other problems start to come up? “Since you brought that up, I have something to say about that” Ever had those kinds of conversations? The ones where you can’t even remember what the original argument was about because you are talking about problem #47. When even the little problems don’t get resolved, the emotional tension built up. Then, like a volcano, the pressure became too much and you blow up. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:25-27

Forgiveness

Healing may take time, but forgiveness should be immediate. Don’t withhold forgiveness in an attempt to heal. Forgiveness is the first step toward healing. Forgive and allow God to heal you. This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20. When you say or do something that hurts your spouse, apologize for your words and actions. When your spouse apologizes, forgive “as God in Christ forgave you.” Even though you may not feel like forgiving your spouse, you need to for your own mental health and spiritual growth. To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing. For, “The one who desires life, to love and see good days, Must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit. 1 Peter 3:8-11. God made men and women very different from each other which can give us plenty of things to argue about. He also created us in his image and gave us his son as a perfect example. So when you and your spouse start to argue, think of how Jesus would handle a situation like that and do your best to walk in his ways.