Build a Strong Marriage through a Happy Husband

I really despise the saying “happy wife, happy life”. I feel like that just makes us sound like a bunch of mentally unstable psychopaths. Like if things don’t go our way, everyone else is just going to be miserable and regret the day they were ever born. But if our husbands and families are trying so hard to keep up happy, shouldn’t we be doing the same for them? So what makes a husband happy? Most of the time not much, they are pretty easy to please but let’s focus on some biblical ways to make them truly joyful instead of just happy with their current circumstances.

1. Husbands want respect. Respect not only is something that makes a husband feel like a man, but it’s also a biblical mandate. Ephesians 5:33 explains, “The wife is to respect her husband.” Do you encourage your husband or do you mock and roll your eyes every time he talks? How you treat your husband has a huge impact on how he responds to you. Remember this is the man you promised to stand by no matter what, even when he says things that make us cringe. Do you talk down to him? Do you thank him for all that he has done for you? How often do you express your appreciation for your husband?

2. Husbands want trust. 1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “[Love] believes all things.” You can build trust in your marriage, too. Trust isn’t just not having to worry that the other is cheating, but knowing all your deep dark secrets will never get out. Putting one spouse in charge of the monthly budget takes a huge amount of trust. Trust is a reaction to love. It’s a by-product of and key to a healthy marriage.

“There is no fear in love” (1 John 4:18). It may be difficult for you to trust because you’re afraid, but “Do not fear” is a command mentioned repeatedly throughout the Bible. You and your husband should be best friends. You both should feel comfortable sharing your goals, dreams, fears, and struggles. The more you share with each other, the stronger your marriage will become.

3. Husbands want peace. Do you find yourself being argumentative with your husband? If so, why? You guys are on the same team, out for the same goal. Don’t make enemies out of each other. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:18. If Paul tells us to get along with everyone, how much more is that intended for our spouses? We are meant to be one flesh with him and it’s unnatural to be at odds against our own flesh. I’m not saying the two of you have to agree on everything but try holding your tongue and picking your battles with him. Consider if what your arguing about is even worth the argument.

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