Mark 10: 6-9
And the two shall become one
What does that even mean, two becoming one? Have you ever been so close to someone you felt like you knew what they were thinking, you could finish their sentences, and you knew them better than you know yourself? God wants that kind of close and intimate relationship between husbands and wives. Intimacy involves physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects and if you try to eliminate one of the three legs of that stool, your stool will topple over. Having a healthy sexual and physical relationship can help improve a relationship of oneness like no other. When we experience sexual gratification with your spouse, your body releases endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin (which are our feel-good hormones) to help further bind our feeling of physical attraction to one another. Sex is something that requires a high level of trust between partners and physically speaking, there is no other way of getting closer to someone than through sex. A sexual relationship is also one of the best ways to show love for your spouse.
Even though physical intimacy is wonderful, it takes up very little time compared to the other aspects. Having a strong emotional connection takes lots of time, and effort to build. It involves learning about one another, all of your deep dark secrets, stories from your past, hopes, goals, dreams, and aspirations for the future. All of it. Remember when you were dating and you wanted to learn everything about the other person, even if that meant staying up all hours of the night talking. That takes a huge desire, time and energy to want to get to know someone on that sort of level. You should be able to tell your spouse anything without fear of rejection. To have an emotional connection with our spouse we must first have one with God. That means we have to be vulnerable and not be afraid to love and be loved. This is not always easy and can sometimes be a bit painful, especially in our earthly relationships. One way to work on your intimacy with your spouse is to confide in them something that you worry about, feel insecure about, or just be open and vulnerable, then pray about those things together.
A spiritual connection is the last leg of the stool that helps complete a marriage and make it the blessing that God truly designed it to be. Unfortunately, when we get married we don’t turn into one person, think the same things, or act the same ways. If we did marriage would be easy and divorce wouldn’t even be a discussion in so many homes, but we are still so different from each other. God designed us differently but also to complement one another. God designed marriage so that no other bond would be quite like it. As we grow in maturity, God expects us to share our spiritual maturity, knowledge, ah-ha moments, and so forth with our spouse. They are a vital part of our spiritual growth. The closer we grow toward God, the closer we grow toward our spouse. The closer we grow toward our spouse the closer we grow toward God. Do not forget to invite God into this process of growing together, after all, marriage was his idea.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
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